It Take Two To Tango: Sex is A Participatory Sport, So Is Parenthood!
I taught family law at both, Brigham Young University and the University of Utah, for a total of about 7 years. There was one United States Supreme Court case, that seemed to have the biggest connection to my students, and it had to do with a paternity case. I can't recall the name right off the bat, but it had to do with a very wealthy young man, not unlike Steve Jobs, that I referred to yesterday, that was dating a girl for a while, until she told him that she was pregnant--end of the fun, hands off, baby is not mine!
Girls, get smart, I read a study, that tracked guys, usually younger, like junior and senior high school, after their first time having sex. Usually, the girl was also a virgin. Now, we are not talking a girl that is pregnant, this is the first sexual experience. So, the first 6 hours, the guy is devastated, may have violated religious and community morals, or personal and family values--which is most young people. The second 6 hours, he wonders, if she would do that with me, who else has she had sex with?
By the third 6 hours, she has gone from a good girl to a slut, ho, easy lay, rather than someone just like him, who is wired for sex. Then the final 6 hours he is sharing his conquest with his friends, the locker room, and her name gets trashed. So wise up, girls, you are not doing yourselves a favor, nor does the guy love you, if he has any concept at that age what love is, not sure I have a concept at 59! Some people never figure it out.
Men give love for sex, and women give sex for love! If you can understand that is the wiring, you will do better at understanding this some say beautiful thing about it, or the ugly thing about sex. So with that foundation, let's go back to the case:
The Paternity Test That Went to the U.S. Supreme Court
Here are the basic facts, wealthy guy, beautiful girl, she tells him that she is on birth control, when they start having sex. Keep in mind, that women are coming at this from the other angle, giving sex for love, unless you are a Montana cowgirl, and they are all about it, going for the fun of it, giving sex to get sex! But anyway, he feels he is safe with this girl who is having sex with him. Then out of the blue, surprise, surprise, surprise, she confronts him and tells him she is pregnant.
Game over? I don't think so, not today boys. Game may be over in 18 years or when the kid graduates from high school, and in some states if daddy is rich enough, some courts are even finding that in our world today, a child needs a college education, so game on!
And you are playing whether you like it or not, I have even defended guys who never even knew they had a kid, and 23 years down the road, Office of Recovery Services, assistant attorney generals, get their claws into you, and you are looking at prison time and paying for the last whatever years of a kids life--the case I dealt with, the kid, if he existed, my call is that the baby was actually, girls dads, a polygamist name noted for incest and welfare fraud, married to the woman for 2 weeks! He was looking at 5 years in prison and owed $50,000, and this is no joke!
U.S. Supreme Court Had No Tolerance For Irresponsible Sex
So the guy in the case we are talking about, is found to be the father of the baby, and the form girlfriend has a bad ass attorney, who is going to get the child's due out of this dad who is trying to shirk his responsibilities. I think he even suggested an abortion, and he would pay, girl said no deal. So the guy decided that he was going to fight this paternity thing, with the fact that she told him that she was on birth control!
The High Court didn't have any sympathy for this wealthy young play boy, they slammed him with a child support payment of $3600 per month! And the case was about 20 years ago! Then the Court reprimanded the young man, and said, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PROTECTING YOURSELF? Good question, what in the hell is wrong with him--oh, I see, he gets to play, she protects, he gets her pregnant, she gets to carry the baby, deal with the humiliation of not being married, and then she is suppose to provide for the baby? REALLY? I am all about justice and that is unjust!
Sure Birth Control--Boy Signs Up Front To Provide For The Child If One Should Come
I am just listening to an R. Kelly Mix, and the song is saying, can't we go half on a baby, a cute little baby boy or a free little baby girl? My mother, Helen Chamberlain Southwick was a junior high health teacher, who had one guy in her school, who had 6 girls pregnant at the same time, she had a mother that was a feminist before her time, and she told all of her daughters, to take a piece of paper for a guy who wants to have sex with you, that has him to commit to paying for a child for the next 18 years--how many guys do you think would actually sign that? Maybe some guy who really, really, really is in love with the girl, then he would probably, protect her and wait until they were married, or take every precaution.
Song right now, is sex in the evening, sex in the morning, sex, at the night. When you need a break, I let you get up and breath, wash your face, then get back in bed--that is the type of music, kids are listening to today!
We Need Responsible Music, Parents, Teachers, Legislatures, Courts, Men & Women to Stop Abortion!
Sex is like playing with a loaded pistol, you want to cut down on abortions, crime, welfare, unemployment, hungry kids, fatherless families, then, we need to get a grip on sex before a pregnancy comes, which is the end result, if nothing happens to interfere in that process, a baby will come, it is not about luck, it is about dealing with reality. Kids, can't hear, see, talk, tweet, facebook, sext, 24 hours a day, and not get caught in the trap of an unwanted pregnancy.
We are asking the impossible of our children, young adults, and even older couples--if we don't deal with reality, reality will deal with us! Just recently in Kalispell, Montana, an abortion clinic was broken into, the pipes burst, electric lines cut, and all kinds of vandalism! What are we, you, Republicans, the Vatican thinking? If we want to stop abortion, we either have to give all people, male and female a lobotomy, because GOD, created male and female, for this reason, to have children, or part of the reason, so this is a God given gift, so to do other than sex is contrary to nature!
But we can be smart about it, teach in schools, homes, churches abstinence, but be realistic, that at least 50% of those kids, higher and lower in some states, are going to have sex, so educate, protect, and provide contraceptives in possible--don't defund Planned Parenthood! How stupid can you get, this is not a Republican or Democrat issues, this is a smart issue! If you don't want abortions, help stop them, the logical, rational, natural way--get control on sex!
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